When you were younger you may have dreamed of becoming something that someone told you that you could not do or be.
I was told that. I wanted to be a psychologist helping people in therapy. I was an introvert and told I couldn't do it. I believed that person (I think he actually was a psychiatrist) and even though I studied psychology I never forged ahead into the field. Instead I got into web design.
But that didn't fulfil me. I wanted to help people. Now I do life coaching (you can visit my website to find out more about that). I've found out it's better for helping people than psychology. But that's not the point here.
I lost self-confidence when I was a teen because I believed what that person said. That person had limiting beliefs that introverts couldn't make good counselors. It's a false belief. I didn't know at that point in my life that everyone has limiting beliefs and that it's okay to not accept what someone else says just because they look like an authority or more wise person. EVERYONE has limiting beliefs and trusting someone just because they are seemingly an authority is a logical fallacy (appeal to authority). Sometimes authority figures are just plain wrong.
When you stop seeing yourself through their limited perspectives, you will believe more powerfully in who you are and what you CAN do.
Your experiences of the world are not always a reflection of reality. Your brain has to make decisions of what to focus on, & THAT is what you perceive. Your perception is not always correct because it's not built on all data. So question what you believe. "Is it true ?"
#perception #perceptions
Oftentimes on social media users will make "social comparisons." They see what other people are doing or looking like in their photos and think, "I wish I had that" or "I wish I looked like that." It's the "grass is always greener on the other side" type thinking.
Most people don't post the times when they don't look their best or when they're sick. Married couples don't post all the times they get into fights. It's easy for someone single to look at happy couple pictures on a timeline and think they'd feel better "if only they met someone."
Females may see made-up women or just filters like the ones in the video/article and feel self-conscious about their own looks. Males may see men with hard abs and wish they looked like that too. Check out the link to see how quickly some different poses and lighting can change your abs. https://www.eviemagazine.com/post/influencer-josephine-livin-reveals-truth-face-filters-body-morphing-tricks
We often miswant what others are showing on social media. I ...
If someone is criticizing you, you should ask, “Is it true?”
If it’s true, then there’s something you can do (work on it). But if it’s not true, why spend time worrying about their incorrect beliefs?
Many children internalize the criticisms they receive when younger. Some things may have been true, but they blew them up into larger problems than they were. Some critiques are just plain wrong (from people projecting their own issues onto the child).
It’s our responsibility to check to see if something is true or not. Otherwise, we’ll live a whole life thinking incorrect things about who we are.
Know Thyself.
Some misunderstand getting prayers answered or manifesting things and think it’s too easy so it must be incorrect. And they’ll ignorantly make fun of Christianity or the Law of Attraction belief that you can simply “Ask & Receive.” Of course, that comes from simplifying the belief down so much that it makes it incorrect.
In this article I discuss the caveats to getting what you ask for from both the Christian perspective and Law of Attraction perspective.
https://lawofattraction.substack.com/p/limitations-of-ask-and-you-will-receive?sd=pf
We all have limiting beliefs that can distort our view of reality. Because I deal with questioning beliefs, I more easily recognized these limiting beliefs in the "woke." I discuss how having limiting beliefs is like going through life with distorting glasses on in this article:
https://dramaofitall.substack.com/p/seeing-through-distorted-lenses
I also share a few things from James Lindsay (newdiscourses.locals.com) if you'd like to learn more about this from a slightly different perspective than mine.